by Stella Freeman

Created on: July 01, 2010

No Excuse for Domestic Violence

Domestic Violence has haunted our homes and societies since the beginning of time. The way in which it is viewed however, has surely been altered to some great extent due to its impact on children, individuals and society as a whole. When discussing Domestic Violence, there is always a gloominess that lingers in the air. This has surely got to do with the daunting task that it takes to eradicate domestic violence not only from our sight but also from our everyday lives and more importantly the negative impact that it has on the lives of those affected. Hundreds and thousands of organizations have made enormous progress through their efforts to do so however, the sad reality we are faced with is that although there are many organizations dealing with domestic violence hands on, it is still hovering behind closed doors.

In the U.S approximately 1.3 million women are victimized each year. This excludes cases of children and men being abused. Yes men do get abused, though these cases are a minority, this does not excuse the fact that it does occur or make it acceptable in any way. It is also a worldwide occurrence that unfortunately attacks some populations more than others. Unfortunately in many countries there is a lack of legal infrastructure when it comes to issues of domestic violence, however the world seems to be taking these issues more seriously and according to the WHO, countries such as Indonesia, India, Thailand and Nepal have enacted a domestic violence act in recent years.

To go deeper into the issue at hand, it is probably safe to say that individuals who are going through domestic violence are hoping with every inch of their being that their partner will cease to be abusive. They may truly believe that they will change, simply because they love them, and they will forgive each and every act to the demise of their self-esteem, purpose and motivation to live. Every act of abuse, takes away a small part of them, until there is nothing left to take.

Furthermore, victims of abuse sometimes learn the behavior of their partner and tend to mimic abusive behaviors such as pathological jealousy, name calling, criticizing, punching etc. This in turn leads the victim to feel that they too are at fault, and the relationship then becomes engrossed in the cycle of violence, where both will push and pull each other in order to get the reaction they desire, love, which usually comes after the acts of abuse. This often becomes

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