by Awe Busuyi Rapheal

Created on: June 30, 2010   Last Updated: July 01, 2010

Every human being is an emotional being. What differentiate us from animals are the mind and the ability to think. The emotion is so powerful that it exerts a degree of influence on important areas of our life, from our body to our will and ultimately our mind. When we are emotionally upset, even the most intelligent person would not be able to think clearly, because his concentration would have been distorted. Our emotion, in one way or the other, has a way of impinging on our thoughts judgments. Let us look from this angle: if a judge, who  is to preside over a very delicate case, says  a case of infidelity between  a couple, had just caught another man, right in the ‘ACT’ with his wife the  previous night, automatically his rage would interfere with the judgment of such a man.

Anger as an, extreme emotional state, gives a strong feeling of dislike about something or about a situation. I have observed over time that, everybody at one time or the other, experiences anger. Sincerely speaking, anger most of the time is an uncontrollable emotional state, because I can not imagine myself in the shoes of someone who just caught his wife in bed with another man!

This then bring us to the issue in question, ‘control’. Anger control or the best ways to deal with anger is a question asked by both young and old, because it does a lot in affecting their daily life. We have seen cases of true lovers who have had their relationship crushed all because of anger and their inability to control it. But before we go into that, it is important to identify what is mostly responsible for the rate and frequency of anger, that is how often we get angry, which is called temperament. Temperament varies in people. Some are of the sanguine temperament, some choleric, some melancholic and some phlegmatic. These temperaments determine the rate and frequency with which people get angry. It is most especially great in the sanguine and the choleric, because they are naturally jealous, intolerant and revengeful people and less in the melancholy and the phlegmatic, perhaps because they are more submissive and calmer.

The most effective way to deal with anger is to try as much as possible to avoid the extremes of anger, once you discover you are tending towards being angry, the best thing to do is leave the scene of the incidence as immediately as possible. This however takes a lot of discipline and self-control which does not come in one day, but

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