by Elaine Thigpen

Created on: June 29, 2010

Someone who is shy does not like being “center of attention”, is very self conscious with everything they do, their self-esteem is low, have little self-confidence, and lack good communication skills. In today’s society, to be successful it is very important to overcome shyness. A person does not go far up the corporate ladder by being shy.

Who doesn’t want to be successful?  Of course, we all want to be the best in our career.  What makes one better than the other? It does not include being shy, that’s for sure.  Shyness affects all aspects of a person's life, but how does one overcome shyness. You must start with baby steps; after all, it's very overwhelming just to overcome being shy all in itself.

Sometimes being shy causes a person to be quiet and don’t speak up when they should; tend to go with the flow. Start out by communicating more with family members by expressing yourself more.  You will feel funny all inside and nervous (this is normal) but over time it will ease away.   This feeling simply means that you are stepping out of your shyness (or comfort zone).

Attend support groups or any small group gathering that is of your interest.  It does not have to be a support group, it can be a class learning to meditate, or learning something new.  As you become familiar with the people, you will begin to open up; expressing yourself verbally, hence, to better communication skills.

Set goals with milestones along the way to monitor your progress.  Repeat positive affirmations to help you overcome shyness. This will help set you free from your comfort zone. At first you will then become unstoppable to conquer all that you desire.

Although having a strong desire to overcome shyness is not even easy; you need to have a good, strong support system at home to help cheer you on as you progress. Another good way to overcome shyness is by going to your local community agencies and volunteer your time.  It helps you to interact with various types of people, builds on communication skills as well as building up your self-esteem.

Go out to the beach, go to the park, whatever you do make sure that you stay active by getting out of your home and surround yourself with other people; you don't necessarily need to carry on conversations with the people. The idea here is to make yourself comfortable being around people.

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