by Clarissa West

Created on: June 21, 2010

There is no such thing as an one-size-fits-all perfect wife, but you can be the perfect wife for your husband. Being a good wife is not about following the worlds (or your girlfriends or their husbands) standard of what a wife is. It's about learning your guy, knowing his needs, wants, and desires and then doing everything in your power to fulfill them. Forget what so-and-so's husband likes his wife to do, what does your husband want you to do?

Spend your time thinking of ways to please your hunny. Make the decision to be his biggest fan. Do small things that you know will make him smile. Cook his favorite foods, wear clothes he likes best on you, do your hair how he likes it, ask him about his day, rub his back. Be respectful of his opinion. Always give him the benefit of the doubt. Trust him. Ask him what he needs from you. Tell him you are proud of him. Be there for him. Listen to him when he needs to talk. Be supportive of him in all things. Teach your children to respect and obey him. Care about him in every way. Remember what it felt like when you were dating. Flirt with him. Smile at him. He is your man, make him feel like it.

Never talk badly about him to others (or to him, for that matter). Don't argue with him. Don't criticize him, his clothes, the way he talks, or what he does. Never compare him to another man or tell him another man is better at anything. Don't set him up for failure. Know his limits. Do not let yourself think ugly thoughts towards him. You are what you think.  Do not put others opinions above his. What your sister thinks about something isn't nearly as important as what your husband thinks about it.

Never forget the vows you made on your wedding day. To many they are just pretty poetry, just something you say when you get married, just tradition. Read, listen to, or say them again. What exactly did you pledge to do for the rest of your life, "until death do us part"? Stop worrying about whether or not he is doing his part. Stand on your own two feet, own up to your mistakes, start over today. Become his perfect wife.  

Be sweet. Be sexy. Be loving. Be what he needs. And in return, he will be all you need.

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