by Richard Smith

Created on: June 20, 2010

You can buy your children’s affection with gifts but it is just temporary affection. You will have to continue to buy gifts to keep their affection. This is not love, just short affection because children are easily persuaded by the glamour of new stuff.

You can have a child and buy them everything in the world. Eventually the child will feel lonely if they don’t have other people around them who spend quality time with them. Especially if the child has other siblings to keep them company, you can just buy them gifts and they will give you affection. This is because their real love is coming from their siblings, so they won’t be completely lonely. The child will look forward to the gifts, because it makes them happy for a short while.

Buying a child gifts will get you affection all through their childhood. They are young and plainly don’t know better. This does has some bad side effects. The child may learn to be greedy and always expect you to give them gifts. When the gifts stop, then child affection will stop. The child will be angry and upset that you’re not giving them what they think they deserve.

What happens as the child grows up, they get sick of just getting gifts and what quality time with you instead. The child now has a better understand that the gifts are only exciting for a short while. This is usually when the child becomes a teenager. They are filled with emotions that are confusing and need much more then gifts. They need a loving parent who will help them understand what is going on. Teen years are difficult; the child is changing and trying to find out who they really are. Tempers will fly, you won’t understand the teen and the teen doesn’t understand them selves or you. This is where you need the love and bonding from childhood to help keep the child on track. If your affection was only by giving gifts, the teen will completely rebel and be loss, fighting in the world by them selves.

What is better then giving gifts all the time? Show the child real love by spending quality time. Quality time can be almost anything as long as you are giving attention to the child. Playing games, fishing, camping, hiking, reading, and anything else the child enjoys doing are great ways to spend quality time. During this quality time you learn about your child and who they are. The child learns about you, to trust and love you, and that you will always be there for them the best you can. A child learning their parents will always be there for them is very important. Life is difficult, but no matter what happens they can turn to you for guidance and advice.

You can get affection from a child with gifts. It is not a healthy relationship and the affection will not last. There is something money can not buy. A strong healthy relationship with your child is one thing that can not be bought.

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