by Amela Piric

Created on: June 15, 2010

Don’t rush into deciding when it is time for you to go.  If you act on your impulses, you might regret it later on.  Think about the good and bad sides of the relationship and put it all down on paper.  Thus, weigh the pros and cons of the relationship before you end it so that you do not regret it later on. 

Below listed are some valid reasons for why you leave the relationship:

1)  When your partner engages in an extramarital affair

Engaging in extramarital affairs not only destroys a relationship but places one at risk for infectious diseases.  Thus, such behavior on the part of your husband or wife is a valid reason for leaving a marriage.  Your partner obviously did not care about being loyal to you and he or she betrayed your trust.  Thus, you will be the one to decide whether you can forgive your partner and go on or whether it is better to break part and go your different ways.  Once a partner cheats on you, it becomes difficult to trust him or her fully ever again.  The question is whether you can live with this or not.

2)  Continuous emotional abuse

Emotional abuse is a good reason to leave your marriage.  If one is emotionally abused on a continuous basis by being called names such as fat, worthless, and stupid, this can destroy one’s confidence and ability to produce and to love if this goes on for too long.  

However, emotional abused should be distinguished from the occasional outbursts that we can run into sometimes when we are angry or have a bad day.  As long as we get an apology for an inappropriate comment, we should be fine as long as one doesn’t take advantage of this. 

3)  If your spouse leaves you

The relationship is pretty much over when one party leaves the other.  Recognizing it on time will help you move on with your life. 

4)  If your future to be in-laws have too much say in your life

If you do not have a say in your relationship or if your partner is too dependent on one’s mother or father, you have a problem.  Try to talk this over with your partner as you two should have priority in your relationship.  If that doesn’t work, try counseling.  Your true and sincere partner should never put his or her parents or siblings ahead of you and your children.

5)  If your spouse is an addict and is not willing to undergo institutional treatment

These are definitely trying times in your relationship.  If your partner is an addict of any sort, be it shopoholic, alcoholic or otherwise, don’t desert him in these trying times without trying to help him or her and see him or her through this.  However, if it doesn’t work out, it might be better for you to leave rather than to be stuck in an unfortunate situation where you or your children may be victims. 

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