by Lynsey Farnsworth

Created on: June 07, 2010

When it comes to society today, one night stands are a part of life. However, it is important to be respectful towards them, and make sure both partners are on the same page. If it is a one night stand to you, do not let him or her believe it may lead to a future or marriage. Be upfront, honest, and on the same page as your partner at all times. What are the guidelines for a one night stand? How can you go about it in a polite manner?

For one, do not sneak out. There is no obligation to stay the night after a one night stand. Do not stay until he or she falls asleep and then leave. While you may both know it was only sex, the feeling of being walked out on in the middle of the night does not change. Either leave immediately after the sexual intercourse takes place, or stay the night. Should an absolute emergency (such as a spouse at home) lead to you leaving in the middle of the night, have the decency to leave a note.

If you are attached, be honest about it. Many men and women have no problems engaging in sexual relations with a married person. However, be up front about it. Do not hide your ring, and do not lie. If you are asked, your lover has a right to know what he or she is about to be in the middle of. Many divorces end on grounds of infidelity, and that may be more than one person wants on their chest. Let them know that you are married, but you are also either not committed or you have an understanding. Letting them find out when the spouse is calling their phone hysterical is no way to do things.

Be upfront about your intentions. If it is just a onetime thing, say so. If you are regularly looking to have your sexual needs satisfied, let them know you may be calling in the future. Nothing is more awkward than getting a call from your one night stand a couple weeks later and having no idea why. Remember, the definition of a one-night-stand is that you never meet again.

Be honest about your sexual desires. Bad one night stands often are the result of bad communication. Let your partner know your preferred positions, rhythm, speed, etc. After all, the sole purpose of this expedition is sexual gratification. Do not be afraid to voice what you are looking for. If you are into more kinky things, that also needs to be said before done.

Be prepared for bad end results. It is entirely possible for one person to become attached, or for the doctor to give you the bad news a few months later. Be sure to protect yourself, but also be aware of the higher risk your

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