by Stacey Smith

Created on: June 03, 2010   Last Updated: June 05, 2010

Whether we like it or not, there are rules when it comes to dating and relationships and the rules that apply to men are not the same rules that apply to women. The majority of mistakes women make in relationships are before a relationship even begins and/or in the initial stages of the romance. Men have a more realistic approach to love and partnerships whereas women have a tendency to romanticize a man or the relationship. In the end, living in a dream world and not facing the truth about the man you’ve chosen as your partner will only lead to unnecessary pain and suffering. Since knowledge gives us the power to make better choices, here are the top 10 mistakes women make in relationships.

Beginning a new relationship immediately following a break-up or divorce.

There is an extremely crass saying which states: The best way to get over somebody is to get underneath somebody else. Not only is this crass, but there could be nothing further from the truth for women. Women are emotional, feeling creatures and when we give our hearts and love to a man, it takes time for us to heal and come to terms with “the end.” Once a significant relationship has ended, take some time to get to know yourself again and don’t start dating until you are certain your heart is free and open to love. There is one common denominator of all your failed relationships and that is you. Take a look at your behaviors in relationships and try to gain insight into the mistakes you have made in the past, so you don’t have to repeat these same patterns in the future. Honor your right and responsibility to grieve and properly let go of someone you once deeply loved.

Seeking or beginning a new relationship when your life is a mess.  

Everyone faces challenges in life and most of us have had moments when we aren’t exactly at the top of our game. While this is nothing to be ashamed of, as it happens to the best of us, it is also not a good time to begin a new relationship. The Law of the Universe applies here which states, in simple terms, we attract what we are in life. If you are a mess, the only man you will attract into your life is a man who is also a mess. He may not be a mess in the same way you are, which is why it will be hard to recognize his shortcomings, but sooner or later you will discover the mess of his life; and probably too late. How many women find themselves in unhealthy relationships because they are already attached or have fallen in

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