by Melanie Smith

Created on: February 27, 2007   Last Updated: April 23, 2007

One of the biggest problems in todays relationships is simply the lack of communication. It doesn't end there, however...
A man doesn't have to come right out and tell you every little thing that's on his mind or that he's thinking of at any given time. He can try to show you. Actions speak louder than words indeed, and if more men (and in some cases, women too) could learn how to express themselves through a combination of actions as well as words, there would be a lower divorce rate.

One of the top reasons many women seek divorce is because they feel they have no other alternative, because their husbands simply will not communicate.
Men, IT'S NOT THAT HARD! If you are with a woman that you love, (and you should be, especially if you married her) then you need to take the time to make sure that she feels it. Call her from work and tell her you love her. Call her AT work, and tell her you miss her. Cook dinner for her. Clean the house. Keep an eye on the kids so she can enjoy a bath or a nap all to herself. Let your woman know she is appreciated and not taken for granted, and you would be amazed at the difference you're going to see.
It may not happen over night, but over a period of time, if you start making an effort to show HER how you feel about HER, she'll start coming around and she'll start returning the favor. Most men would never admit that they need to feel wanted and appreciated too, but they do. Deep down everyone does.
In a lot of relationships, the woman has tried this method since day one. Making her man feel loved, making him feel attractive, making him feel wanted and appreciated. But there has to come a time when he shows her the same respect.
Make plans to sit down once a week at the dinner table, and eat dinner together. You don't have to have an in-depth conversation about nuclear science, but just talk about her, talk about you. Talk about what you're missing, talk about what you need. If she cooked, compliment her meal.
It's not rocket science. So many people sit back and say "Oh where did the spark go? Where did the romance go? I just fell out of love with so-and-so."
That's where you're wrong. People don't just wake up one day and fall out of love with someone. That is a feeling that takes time to build up. It could be something so simple as say...she doesn't vacuum enough. If you don't tell her, then she doesn't know, then she's not going to change it and please you. Ladies, say your man never tells you that you look pretty..if he doesn't know you need to hear it, maybe the romance just doesn't come naturally to him.
You have got to be able to successfully communicate your wants and needs with each other in order to have a successful relationship of any kind.
And the good news? It's not that hard! Anybody can do it if they put their mind to it!
So ladies, next time your man comes home from a long hard day at work, rub his back. Run him a bath. Cook him a meal.
Men, next time your lady is severely stressed out about something, rub HER back, wash her hair in the shower, or tell her that she looks beautiful.
If you try these small steps, you'd be surprised at where you may wind up!

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