by Suzanne Rose

Created on: June 01, 2010

The proposal may seem like the most important moment of your life up until then, but how important is it really?  There is a good argument that it is not so important at all.  The following are some reasons why this might be the case.

The proposal may seem like the absolute question, yet is the way the proposal given going to determine the answer?  In most cases, this is probably not the case.  Most of the time the woman is going to say yes or no matter how the question is asked.  When your relationship is getting to that point, you often know what the answer is already.  For many the proposal is a formality and very special but it doesn’t actually influence whether the answer is yes or no.

Although the proposal might seem the most exciting thing up until that point, you will soon start planning a wedding.  For many this wedding is going to end up being the big event that creates memories for a lifetime.  There are so many wonderful parts to a wedding, and although you are likely to always remember the proposal, when you think back, you might reminisce more to that moment that you actually became man and wife. 

Many men have difficulty proposing.  They might not know how to do it.  The point is that every person will do the best that they can and many women are excited just by the fact that they are proposing.  Even the men who just do a simple “Will you marry me?” are likely to get an excited response. 

The big part about a proposal is the question being asked.  Even though proposals can be as different as night and day, the basis behind all of them remains the same: the question of whether she will marry him.  That is what is the most meaningful.

There is no one best proposal.  Some women might prefer a very simple proposal – they might not want any theatrics or people to witness it.  Having a plain talk might be the best of all.  Others might enjoy a surprise or the spotlight, but again, their answer will probably have been the same no matter how he asked.

The proposal is a special time and it is something you are likely to remember forever. In that way it is important.  Yet when it comes down to it, it is the past that made you fall in love and the future that looms bright that holds the truest importance of all.

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