by Angie Lewis

Created on: May 25, 2010

How will you know if you are really in love or if it is just infatuation? Love is an action and infatuation is a feeling. Love, unlike infatuation and lust take commitment and devotion to a person. This is because when we truly love someone it takes self-sacrificing behaviors and attitude.

When you love someone you wouldn’t do anything to hurt him or her. If you’re not married you wouldn’t try to incite passion within her and she would not flirt with and excite him. These actions come from the feelings that infatuation creates. If we constantly obsess about a person we are in a relationship with, morals will take a backseat and we will get our lustful desires met through sexual relations.

Having sex outside of the “one flesh” of marriage creates delusion and wrong attitudes within a couple and keeps the relationship from developing into love. They may truly think they are “in love” and this misconception can create havoc later on when one of them decides they are not infatuated any more with the other.  Unbeknownst to both of them, they have already disrespected each other through the sexual act because there is no love and commitment.  When a relationship is supported only by feelings of infatuation, it won’t last. Once infatuation dissipates the relationship dissipates along with it.

Its important to note, that we are human and we will have feelings of lust and desire but we also have been given self-control to not harm ourselves and those we care about in our relationships. God has given us the free will to choose self-discipline or lack of it. He is not going to stand over us with a paddle telling us what we can and cannot do because He already has. Where is our faith to believe that what God says for us is true? By the way, the paddle comes later, maybe much later, but it will eventually come.

What we think about in our attitude and how we view life and what we believe in precedes what we will do and act on.  If we constantly dwell on lust desires, we’ll eventually act upon them. Infatuation urges us to have sex, while loving someone would put desires and lust feelings aside so we can truly get to know the person we are in relationship with. Two unmarried people should not incite passion and lust within each other. God made fornication a sin because he knew it harms people emotionally, spiritually and sometimes physically.

Jesus says to not even look at another with feelings of lust because

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