by Rachelle de Bretagne

Created on: May 16, 2010

It's easy to give advice to someone who is suffering loss, though sincere, heartfelt advice can only come from those who have experienced loss and know the full story of recovery. It's different for every person on earth, though the moving on process is fairly similar, regardless of the diversity of circumstance. Someone you loved has died, and there is a void within your life that you feel is an endless one that no one can help you to fill in, in order to move on. It's like you question life itself as you struggle to understand how people can sit in restaurants and eat meals as if nothing changed. It's an anger, a sadness, a hopelessness that you feel will never end. So how do you move on after the death of a loved one?

Truth is you don't necessarily move on.

What you do is learn to live with loss, and that's a whole different ballgame. The process which helps you to face the next day is the one that also helps your steps to move forward toward the future, and it is this path that you need to take to get your feet walking in a frontward direction. That's about as far as moving on can be achieved, but in each step along the way, a little more light is shed on how emotions work, and how you use your own judgment to know when it's right for that next step to take its course. In this article we discuss the manner in which this is achieved.

Remembering.

By remembering those we love, they never really do die. Their body may be gone, and we may be filled with horrible memories of their passing, but once these dim into the distance, what we potentially have is far more important and longer lasting. People hide away photos and avoid thinking about the past because they think it will make them sad. Sometimes looking at just those things and remembering the good things shared actually helps the healing process. Celebrate their lives, rather than staying in a retrospective state of mind which remembers their death. Their lives are worth more than morbid memories, and this helps you to regain your ability to see their smiles and remember their laughter, as part of your past, but also as part of your future.

Discovering who you are.

Many people who lose someone they love feel as if part of them is gone. In actual reality, the truth is far from that. No one is an extension of another human being. They are all complete people within their own right. Those who lose someone they love, need to rediscover who they are without thinking of themselves as an extension of their

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