by Unstoppable Force

Created on: May 08, 2010   Last Updated: May 09, 2010

You flipped head over heals the moment your eyes caught each other.  The months or couple of years (depending on how you approach things) leading to M-Day were a whirlwind of fun, excitement and growth.  The two of you did everything together.  You vowed to never leave each others sides, sure you had little spats here and there but they were quickly ended and nobody was the worse for wear. 

It was amazing to say the least.  You could not remember a time in your life that you were ever happier.  You now wholeheartedly believe what people always said... there's someone out there for everyone.  You could not believe your good fortune, how does a stiff like me get the girl or the guy in the end?

The excitement of the chaos that is the wedding day is over.  The reception is a distant memory to be re-lived through the candid video's and pictures that were taken.  The honeymoon was over way to quickly, now life and reality are smacking you dead in the face every day. 

Daily stress, career goals and the kids have taken the place of fun, excitement and intimacy.  You are beginning to fight more and more, you didn't realize that things were going to be this hard.  You spend your free time in silence wondering where all the love went.  The real you that you swore was not going rear his or her ugly head is taking advantage of your weakened state. 

The days of returning home from work to a "hey honey, how was your day?"  is now replaced with almost daily power struggles of nuclear magnitude.  The slightest word has the power to set off the powder keg that is your significant other.  You stumble through your evening wondering what happened, why on earth are you fighting over the milk? 

Why on earth is everything your fault?  Why have the smiles and good feelings been replaced by angry frowns and the terror of having to say two words to each other?

I'm no relationship guru.  I don't have all the answers to bring your marriage back to life.  There are no archaic secrets to a happy married life.  A marriage counselor is hardly the answer.  Your friends will not provide the correct answers to a marriage that is falling apart. 

The whole trick to loving together successfully despite differences is to learn how to bend without breaking.  The key is to understand that as individuals you will not always see things in the same light.  You will not always

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