by Adrian Owens

Created on: May 07, 2010

Relationships are built from familiarity. Is there a better place to become familiar with individuals than in the family? The perfect setting to build relationships is at the dinner table. With comforting smells emanating from the freshly baked (micro-waved) food and the family nestled around the table, this is a scene ripe for the disseminating of information, stories, riddles and family history.

Military families, or those families where a parent is not around everyday, truly appreciate the time spent when all can be gathered together for a meal. Unfortunately busy schedules prevent this from taking place.

The practice of gathering together at dinnertime is a tradition that should not just be reserved for holiday or large gatherings.  Can we again make the every night assembly at the dinner table a custom? All family members will benefit from discussions at the dinner table.  

Dinnertime allows you to hear the honest thoughts of a young one’s heart. At times it might be a problem they are struggling with either in the classroom, school bus, or on the playground.

While eating a meal, the opportunity to truly listen to what the children are saying and discern if adjustment or strengthening of the young ones comments or statements is needed. In the serene setting of the dinner table questions can be asked without being mistaken as an inquisition.

Maybe the children want to share an entertaining story or joke with you. Imagine their joy as they bring a smile to your face or even better, robust laughter. The result: a bond is built, a relationship strengthened. Isn't true communication what we desire in our families? 

The adults, also relating stories of their childhood or school experiences can share this joy. How many times have you chuckled at the thought of your parents telling the story of walking 10 miles to the store for milk in 30 feet of hard packed snowdrifts? Yes, we knew than, as we know now, that it was an exaggeration but it was still fun to hear. Memories are made at the dinner table.

By taking time to exchange thoughts and feelings, children learn to express themselves freely helping to build self-esteem. Children can gain confidence and reasoning skills from up building conversations within the family. Yes, all of these benefits can be gleaned from taking time out and communicating at the dinner table.

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