by Gabby Bugwadia

Created on: May 07, 2010

To a large extent, life is a large do-it-yourself project. In the long run, it's really up to each one of us what we make of it. Winning and losing are the final end results; it is the sum total of our attitude, our personality and the choices we make; it has very little to do with our circumstances. If you allow yourself to slip into the habit of accepting defeat, you may not experience the joys of winning.

We have all experienced defeat in our lives at one time or the other; however, we cannot allow ourselves to accept defeat as an inevitable part of our lives. On the contrary we need to make an all-out effort to combat this negative force and overcome defeats that often come our way. Accepting defeat may be easy; but continuing diligently despite the odds against you, is hard. It is your determination to succeed and not accept defeat, which can make you a true winner.

Here are some specific ways to avoid accepting defeat:

* Tune your mindset

Your thoughts spring from the recesses of your mind and generate action.  It is your perception, the thoughts you harbor in your mind that will ultimately lead you to success or defeat. Perhaps, it's what you allow your mind to think you're not, that's holding you back. Hence it is important for you to think positively and strongly avoid the defeatist attitude.  Instead, turn your problems and obstacles into opportunities. Cultivate this creative and forward thinking skill which is consistently practiced by successful men and women. Remember: You can acquire it too if you try hard enough.  

* Believe

Believe in your “inner” strength; this will energize and strengthen your resolve to be a winner and not accept defeat. Believe you have the power to do whatever you set your mind to and have the determination and courage to see it through-no matter what direction you choose to take. Use affirmations like “Yes, I can” to boost your confidence. Affirmations are the most important words you can say to yourself. Consistent belief in oneself and refusing to accept defeat in all segments of life is the surest road to success and happiness.

* Empower

Empower yourself with optimism. In life, it always pays to be optimistic. This winning attitude creates energy and sparks enthusiasm to succeed and not accept defeat at any cost. Let the strength of this positive force permeate in all that you do. Create a sense of urgency or else you will lose the desire and the motivation to come out

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