by Miguel Cavazos

Created on: May 06, 2010   Last Updated: May 07, 2010

Jennifer Love Hewitt is considered one of the most attractive women in the entertainment industry and the world. With a high profile career dating back to 1989, Ms. Hewitt’s dating life is highly publicized (and highly criticized). Her book, The Day I Shot Cupid is a reality check on relationships.  The book is targeted at female readers, but most of the material applies to guys too, because JLH considers both in the relationship. 

Hewitt discusses the importance of defining what each person wants to contribute to their relationship, what they want from it, and the importance of defining individual relationships on their own terms without imposing fairytale standards. She claims she is a hopeless romantic and love-aholic, but the book shows that the prior pain of lost love matured Lady Love’s perspective on romance and relationships.

The adjustment in Love’s perspective allows her faith in love and relationships to remain in tact. She has not become disdainful of romance. On the contrary, “The Day I Shot Cupid” shows that Jennifer Love Hewitt is a heroin for many that struggle in love.

JLH is a hopeless romantic, but rejects fairytale definitions about relationships, because they impose unrealistic (and fatal) standards. She suggests that couples are better off creating a relationship that they define for themselves.  Relationships are defined by what each person contributes and receives. 

Love tells us to figure out what kind of person we want to be with; but in order to do that, we need to know what we want out of a relationship, and what we want to contribute. That is, women should know the kind of man they want to be with, and the kind of woman they want to be in their relationship.

Love indicates that men are somewhat flexible in relationships.  A man wants to be what a girl wants, but he needs a clear idea of what that is.  After she knows who she wants to be in the relationship, a woman can determine the kind of man she wants to be with.

JLH profiles three types – Machomen, Metrosexuals, and Heros.  Heros are the most desirable. They are thoughtful, emotionally secure and emotionally intelligent. They are romantic, open doors, dress to impress, and value good love letters. 

They can protect a woman while respecting her strength, and they are driven to find out how to give a woman what she wants in a relationship. A woman’s tragedy is that she may not even realize when

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