by Candace Uhlik

Created on: May 04, 2010   Last Updated: May 05, 2010

Parenting can be compared to that of a risk-taking adventure because both require taking a leap of faith into the unknown. There are so many variables that are unaccounted for when it comes to parenting, but you just need to experience what is has to offer you.  In effect, you do need a backbone to take that leap of faith into the realm of parenting.

Search backbone in the dictionary and it will refer to a spine, the supporting object holding all else together, and strength of character or resolution. Combine those definitions and you have the proverbial meaning of backbone referring to courage. Yes, it takes courage to become a parent because for the next odd 30 some years of your life you must have the courage to set aside your life and take on a completely foreign and new one.

With all the parenting books in print, the wealth of information in cyberspace, and the medical information received from healthcare professionals one would assume that there is more than enough information to prepare an individual or individuals for a life of child rearing. But that information should not be a substitute for best practices or taking advice from those who have experienced child rearing first hand. One cannot rely solely on what others individuals say either as everyone has differing experiences, ethics and principles when raising their little ones.

When deciding upon probably the most important decision in your life one would want to consider the physical, mental, emotional, spiritual and financial aspects of raising a child as well, not just the logical and biological aspects. So many times I have heard new mothers say “you don’t really understand until you have one” and “you never really are prepared to have a child”. So, how can one then prepare yourself for the most adventurous journey of your life? How do you determine if you have the backbone or courage for parenting? I would advise on asking yourself the following questions: Do you have the physical stamina and mental acuity required to be on the alert at all times for your child(ren)? Are you mentally willing to give up the notion of "free time" and other things you enjoy such as your hobbies, advancing your career and extracurricular activities you enjoy doing with friends or alone? Are you emotionally intelligent? That is, are you mentally healthy and able to deal with the many and constant challenges

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