by Adeyinka Olugbade

Created on: May 03, 2010

The ability to give is part and parcel of life’s relationship. Without it, as evidence in the willingness to share and to receive from those with whom you are in a relationship, it is improbable justifying the existence of having contracted one.

Giving gifts is a special way of showing the beautiful one in your life how much they meant. It is a timeless way of earning loyalty, cementing bonds, and watering of the particular kind of relationship you involved in. The gift becomes a symbolic representation of the giver in moment of adversity or when miles lay between.

It is important and you must know that the rules governing giving of gifts in relationship are as flexible as they are rigid. What exist is the simple law of willingness and creativity. As long as you propose in your heart to give, then, whatever is given from the heart should be right. The condition and atmosphere are essential factor. This does not mean that you can give just about anything and at any time or in just about any kind of place. The exception to this unwritten rule requires that whatever you are packaging to at least have value. After all, of what advantages is it giving a gift that the recipient cannot use or be overwhelmed by the sheer surprise of receiving it? Two, it will be an abnormal to give a birthday present to a friend who is getting wedded except the said friends happens to celebrate the former on the date. The same abnormality clause is sustained for giving a meat to a vegetarian. Whenever the condition and atmosphere clauses are factored, it is usually owing to the complex nature of the relationship.

The art of gift giving can be fun and easy if most people can focus on the most important determinant. It is the value you attach to the receiver that should guide. This sense of value is a direct result of the understanding we have about this special someone and it can be a simple a s been sure he is male and she a female so as not to commit a gender crime. Shopping for a gift for a childhood friend or fiancée will draw more emotions than shopping for someone you met a few days ago. However, if this newcomer is the childhood friend or a fiancée will seem to complicate the process.

Perceived in this light, the art of giving becomes a delight rather a burden. This is the way most philanthropists think of their act of kindness. It is more than the amount or quantity or quality of what is given. It is the joy of doing it, of seeing the receiver feeling lover, appreciated that makes giving worth the while.

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