by Jeff Mount

Created on: May 02, 2010   Last Updated: May 03, 2010

If you don't make every effort to try and get along with people you dislike, you will lead a miserable existence. I know this to be true, because it's something that I constantly struggle with. Not being an 'A-type' personality myself, I am somewhat withdrawn from people and have to constantly work on my relationships. Here are some things that help me get along with folks:

Look for the good in people
No matter what bad characteristics a person possess, there is likely some saving grace in their personality. Focus on it and try to shut out the bad stuff.

Start with a smile
The attitude you take into conversations and social interactions goes a long way in determining the outcome of the interaction. Be optimistic and cheerful and you will be more likely receive the same attitude.

Politely let them know what's bothering you
You can either be driven mad by the lady in the cubicle next to you playing her music too loud again, or you can ask her nicely to turn the music down. Chances are she will not be offended and will respect your wishes in the future. So, don't clam up, speak your mind, but use tact when you do.

Accept the fact that people's opinions differ
Don't be a narcissist where you think your viewpoint is always the right viewpoint. Often we let things like religious or political views alter our perceptions of people, or pre-judge them. Realize that everyone is entitled to his or her own opinion and that doesn't mean you should lose respect for them.

Avoid touchy subjects
If you have a 'hot button issue' or something that you feel passionate about, it may be best to avoid conversations about the subject around people with opposing viewpoints (especially in the workplace). If a person constantly brings up topics or opinions that offend you, politely ask them to avoid bringing up such discussions  in future discourses with you.

Go to your happy place
Take deep breaths. Think about the time you will be spending with your loved ones later, or something fun you will do later. Don't be too quick to judge or react;, take a second to think before speaking. Be as diplomatic as possible.

Remember we are not on this earth for long, so we might as well enjoy our time here and endeavor to be kind to each other!

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