by Ana Choi

Created on: May 01, 2010   Last Updated: May 03, 2010

A Belief is only a thought we keep on thinking (Abraham).  Has it ever occured to you that there are beliefs that pose themselves,  not as walls or fortresses, but the trenches in the battlefield of love?  What are we repeatedly thinking that makes relating all the more difficult and more complex?  Let’s play ghost busters and haunt all of those invisible and sometimes flying, nagging, little thingies that have been sabotaging our relationships for so long, because I have identified 10 of them.  Come and join me if you dare.

1)      The belief that someone out there is going to complete us – It’s inevitable, it’s encrypted in our psyches, as if, since we were born, we have to accept phrases like “Your other/better half” to describe our mate.  We don’t know where it came from. You can find this phrase in all languages possible, and this idea that it is someone else’s work, task, destiny, to make us happy is so outdated!  It is one of the main barriers to our own happiness and our own fulfillment.  But what happens if you can’t find “the one”? What happens if you’re past your “marrying age”? Are you going about the world feeling and believing you are but half as good as anybody else?  Of course NOT !  Are you sincerely going to wait until your “prince charming” comes along and makes your life wonderful?  It is high time we join forces and face this barrier with love and compassion to ourselves; we are wonderful women, and no one needs to complete us because we are already complete.  Give yourself the opportunity to fall in love, enjoy, admire and be passionate about  YOU.

2)      The idea that if he loves me, he must know instinctively what I need from him – Come on girls, guys are wired differently; they simply don’t get it if we can’t spell it out simple and straight.  So many times we create such drama in our heads only because: he didn’t notice we were wearing a different perfume/lipstick/dress/shoes today and didn’t complement us, didn’t call exactly at 12 p.m., forgot to buy our favorite dessert/latte/flowers, didn’t notice we were sneezing/coughing/scratching/crying more than usual and we are on the verge of exploding because: " All this means he doesn't love me bacause if he

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