by R Kola.

Created on: April 29, 2010

Self-esteem is very important, without it life becomes a continuous struggle. Achieving self esteem proves to be very hard to everyone who fails to have it. In life, we constantly pressure ourselves to be something we're not. Some wish they could lose weight, then some want to gain it. Some want to more intelligence others want to learn how to sing. We will never be fully happy with ourselves but when you start hating yourself or feeling like your not worth anything that's when it becomes a problem.

Low self-esteem occurs in many different people, of different ethnic backgrounds, gender and age. To gain self-esteem you need to gain self-respect and self-confidence. You need to believe that you are worthy and you are important, many people who have low self esteem tend to bring others down. They go around making themselves appear to be perfect and tease or manipulate people who are weak targets This makes them feel better, it gives them that feeling of worthiness that they cannot feel without hurting others. If someone makes you feel inferior, don't let it affect you. They often say stuff that are completely opposite to themselves, if they are skinny they will tease you calling you fat. If they are fat they will tease you and call you skinny. This probably is mainly seen in teenagers.

Bullying damages self-esteem strongly, and we are often bullied by ourselves, constantly feeling that we're not good enough. Those negative thoughts that always keep popping up. Its hard to understand why our minds bully us. They are part of us, they should be on our side, its because many people let their mind bully them. You need to stand up to yourself and for yourself. If your mind tells you your nothing, fight back. Let it know that you are not nothing, you are somebody and you are a somebody that matters. No matter how popular, clever or famous you are, you contribute to the world everyday without knowing it.

Gaining self-esteem is very hard but once you stop bullying yourself, others will find it hard to bully you. How can people love and respect you, if you don't even love and respect yourself? How can people take you seriously, if you don't take yourself seriously? once you reach high self-esteem, don't forget the others who may still be going through it, remember to treat others with respect, it's very easy for us to put down others so we feel that we are superior, but refrain from doing so. It doesn't help, it almost becomes like a roller-coaster or sugar rush. You say or do something that makes someone inferior making yourself feel superior, then once that feeling wears off and your left feeling down and sad again maybe even worse.

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