by Cleveland Dingle

Created on: April 29, 2010   Last Updated: May 03, 2010

Sometimes I believe that the older we get, the dumber we get. I say that with all the love I can muster up. It is not until we as parents remember what it was like to be our kids age that we will begin the task of understanding them. Being responsible parents is a tough job. There is nothing easy about it until our children become adults; independent and on their own.

As parents, we forget about the emotions of our children sometimes. We get so engulfed in our lives that we forget to slow down for a moment and really get involved in the child's life. We push on forward in our careers and social lives, unintentionally not pushing ourselves in our children direction.

Most of all, we don't want to accept the responsibility that it is truly all our fault. This is where the majority of the negative issues come from in family relationships. Parents do not take responsibility for their own actions and they blame the children for the unhappiness that is now overwhelmingly present.

Dad and mom, please take the time to do a self-evaluation of how you were raised by your parent(s). Ask yourself "Did I ever learn how to communicate with people in general?" Did you ever learn how to "listen" dad and mom?

Did you learn how to control your emotions so you won't prohibit another human being specifically your child or children from freely expressing themselves to you? Are you stubborn? Are you arrogant? Are you a bully? Are you timid and afraid to speak your opinion? Are you just a co-signer for people? Do you get my point?

How well do you know yourself? If and when you do find your fault in your relationship with your children are you willing or able minded to do something about it? Talk to your pastor or get counseling is a start to healing your relationship with your children.

You can not continue to treat your teen like a baby. If you did not take the time to develop a relationship of trust with your child or children when they were young and maintained it, what do you expect from them as they become teenagers? They don't trust you!

In some cases they don't like you. Reason being, they want to trust  and like you, but you won't allow them too. You keep putting your foot on their neck, calling them names, dismissing their feelings towards anything. Ignoring their emotional cry for the chance to experiment and see what it is like to be an adult.

In the past when they made mistakes, you shot them down. You didn't offer any comfort, just pain. On the other hand, if you

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