by David Samuel

Created on: April 27, 2010   Last Updated: April 28, 2010

You fell in love and had the fairytale beginning to start things off. Now you have this beautiful garden you created out of this love. Full of a passionate, fruitful promise of a long life together. However, Just like any other garden if you do not take care of it there will be weeds that will grow.  Those weeds can choke out that beautiful seed of love.

If you do not tend to this plot of passion on a regular basis things will get out of hand. Have you ever put off the yard work for too long? You eventually walk out too see the grass is knee high, black berry bushes have taken over the cute little walking paths from last spring and it seems like to much work to take care of now . You look at the work that is needed and it feels like it has gotten to the point where you need to hire someone else to take care of it.

Many of us have been there but if we let things get to the point where someone else has to step in to help we might want to humble ourselves and admit we have some issues to work on. We all could probably use some more disciplined with the verb of "Love". I talk from experience here and I was online at one point looking to find any article I could use to help me with my situation. So here I am trying to give back to the world in some small way.

Most of us wait for the help when it is nearly too late for help. Generally speaking we tend to have a negative thought about counseling. I know I did but what I have found is that I needed some tools to help out with my relationship. Just like the metaphor above we need tools to help us keep a beautiful garden producing fruit all year long. If we do not work that ground it will die. No matter how beautiful it was to begin with.

I am in no way an expert on Love, but really who is? It seems to be the mystery we all are looking for and I have a feeling we begin to have knowledge about this subject when we share with each other what we have learned. Just like anything in life you get out of it what you put into it.

Here are a few things to contribute to this topic of discussion.

Communication - This almost sums up everything. So simple yet so hard. To have good communication between the two couples you must understand each others semantics. Taking the time to understand each other is the ultimate respect of love. A marriage counselor I used in the past said it was a good idea to have check in points in the relationship.

Check in points - If the relationship is in critical mode which would mean you are on

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