by Mellissa Withers

Created on: April 25, 2010   Last Updated: May 11, 2011

Cutting off all contact with a person that repeatedly disrespects you is not an easy matter by any means. There is defiantly no reason anyone should have to deal with a person that has no desire to at least be civil to you as these types of people are draining on your time, energy and patience. Toxic people have a way of ruining your day and draining your energy with their antics; however, most people do not act this way without reason. So, before taking the step to cut off all contact find out the motivation of why they are acting this way first. When it comes down to the root  of the problem, you may be surprised as to the reason they are acting the way they are.

Typically, people do not act disrespectful without reason; however, there are some people that just do not know how to be civil or nice at all then these people can be easily cut off without much thought. For most people in your life, it is benifitul to take a minute before you take that final step to total cut off the communication. You deffantly want to make sure you  are not the one at fault. If you are the one causing them to be disrespectful attitude, perhaps with your conduct, or actions this need to be reevaluated instead of just cutting them out of your life. In our “Obama” socialistic world it is easier to blame everyone else than it is to take responsibility for our own actions; however, sometimes looking inside our selves goes a long way to fixing the problem. While it is easier to tell only the part of the story that makes you look the victim so people will feel sorry for you. It is also easier to write people off than it is to fix the problem, does not mean this is the correct course of action. Do not make the mistake of throwing good people away for the wrong reasons.

Under no condition should children fall into this category, especially children under the age of minority. Children are the greatest gifts in life. Teaching them that love is subject to your whims or moods is unacceptable. To accuse a child of parenting the parent should throw up huge red flags. As a parent if your child is trying to act like the parent that is a huge indicator your actions are not what they should be. Why should a child ever feel the need to parent their parent and then be accused of being toxic because of it? Children have a huge sense of what is right and wrong. A child should not be punished for trying to do what they think is right. Children need clear boundaries and limits, however, banning them from all communication, as a punishment for being “disrespectful” is cruel.

Toxic people are very difficult to deal with but before placing the toxic label on them, make sure it is the correct one. Take the time to look at the whole situations or encounters from the other person’s point of view. Look deeply at your own actions and make corrections. Above all, do not punish children under false pretenses as they will learn that realstionships are one sided. As the last and final resort, ban toxic people from your life if it is really the best course of action.

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