by Emilie Burgogney

Created on: April 22, 2010   Last Updated: April 23, 2010

It has always been widely stated that men always have sex on the brain, but then why is it that we women are always the one to actually initiate "the act"?

I have only been married for two years now, but I feel as if I was entered into an "elite club", as some might call it. In this club of married women, I have been handed down some sort of power that makes me in control of my husband. It's as if my mother unknowingly taught me all of these tricks of the trade! For instance, if you want them to spend more time with you: make them dinner and then say that you planned a romantic evening in with dinner and a movie...call first shots and they can't escape to their video games, magazines, garages, etc.  I believe also, that it is this power that our husbands and boyfriends are most afraid of...they just don't understand it.  Yes, it is true that what they are thinking about most of the time is sex. You can hear it almost like a plea in their voice and their actions. Every time they give you that extra kiss before bed or do something nice like the dishes, you know that later they may want to use that as a bargaining tool. That's where men are a little naive...they think that we women don't catch what's going on, but we do...we always do. We just don't say anything about it and then later we say we don't feel good as we crawl into bed groaning and coughing. The plus side for our husbands is that we are actually just as sexually aroused as they are most of the time, we just don't find it absolutely necessary to put our bodies through that much more stress after an already full load...we feel like it's one of those things that we can put on the back burner...but not for long.  Eventually by the end of the week when things start to slow down, all these feeling will catch up with us. That's when our husbands come home from work and we're dressed in our high heels and skimpy lingerie and we meet them as they come in the door for a little rendezvous. We know that we've given them enough to keep them going through at least the next week, when we will initiate it again later. So see, it's kind of a step by step process: fear, planning, dismissal, waiting, receiving. 

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