by Leslie Trotter

Created on: April 22, 2010

Reasons for a no contact letter when ending an affair

Someone whose been in an on-going affair for a long time can become very clingy and obsessed with the person that has ended an affair with them. There are reasons that someone wants there not to be any contact and it usually because they don't want any more ties to that person especially if they are married to someone else and doesn't want their spouse to find out about the affair.

A married person may decide that his or her marriage is more important than this affair and they will do everything in their power to set things straight again in their marriage. You being the one he or she is having the affair with poses a big threat to their marriage.

It is better to go your separate ways after an affair has ended. A no contact letter keeps the affair you had with someone a secret from your spouse and you can go on like nothing has ever happened. This might not seem fair for the person he or she has had an affair with because there may still be strong feelings. However, that is the consequence you have to suffer for having an affair with a married person.

A married person who wants to salvage his or her marriage wants to ban you from their lives and a no contact letter might be the last form of communication you will get from your married boyfriend or girlfriend. You might be the one sending out this no contact letter. It is a good idea only if it works. You will have to be certain that the person you had this affair with understands that you no longer want any contact with him or her ever again.

If they don't understand you played with fire and are going to be burned by someone who might start to stalk you or threaten to spill the beans to your spouse.  Needless to say, ending an affair can't be an easy thing to do. Therefore, not starting one in the first place is the better choice. Coming clean to your spouse about this affair should be considered and if your spouse want to remain in the marriage with you, They will insist that you end this affair and send a no contact letter to the person you are having an affair with.

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