by Sheneen Mcclain

Created on: April 20, 2010

I have a different opinion concerning the depths of love. Recently I ended an eight year roller-coaster that left me depressed and in doubt of my own purpose in the relationship. I had a child by a man who used every excuse in the book as to why he could not and would not treat me like I needed and deserved to be treated. I endured three secret affairs that finally came to light months after they had been started by my child's daddy and his private arsenal of beneficial friends. I was put through constant dramas because he refused to accept me for who I am, a strong woman with serious beliefs.

During this time, I would meditate on all the good things about him and try to understand the bad habits that kept him in misery as the man I loved. Without even knowing how deep his animosity went for me because I gave birth to our daughter, I allowed him to claim love for me that he could not demonstrate. With my giving heart I stood by his side no matter what he did and claimed my space when the pain was to much to ignore. Every time I left him, he would find me and declare his forever love to me and our children who were around us at the time. But he personally wasn't ready to experience my kind of love so he took much for granted and even tortured me using our child as bait.

Love is only blind if it isn't real. People meet and are attracted to each other and this gives way to influences during the get-to-know-you process. As creatures of habit we often stick with what we know and can appreciate or value. When men and women get involved with each other because of gain, lust or pain, then love is blind and misinterpreted. Feelings can't explain love but actions can and love shouldn't hurt or lie to someone else. When love is real and true, it lift you up to a certain style of stability and never lets you go, but it has to be accepted first. The truth sets us free so being blind in love is just a trap for future heartache and bitterness without the essence of love divine.

I got involved with him again because of a lie he told me, that he loved me and the family that we had began together. I should have seen his actions for what they were instead of what I wanted. What I wanted made me blind so the love was not true though I believed it to be. I know better now.

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