by Cristina Olvera

Created on: April 18, 2010

I’ve been infatuated with someone more times than I can count.  Almost every time I thought I was so in love with that person.  I was so wrong every time.  I thought that those feelings had to mean something more than just a strong physical attraction, but they weren’t.  A few times I got my heart broken because I was trying to make more out of it than what was there and other times I would wake up and realize that there were absolutely no feelings left.  The mind and the heart are both very strong and this is where the confusion with infatuation begins.  When we’re alone we’re eager to find love and sometimes this may cloud the real situation. Infatuation can be one of the most intense feelings a person can experience in their life.  Many times it’s mistaken for love and can create significant problems.  Other times is dissipates as quickly as it began. 

Meeting someone that you are attracted to for the first time is one of the best feelings you will ever experience.  The first hug, the first kiss and the first time create emotions that run rapid and often this is when our first thought is that it must be love.  How can we experience such strong feelings for someone if it’s not love?  Sometimes it may be real love, but most of the time it’s simply infatuation.  This person is new and exciting and they bring out a part of us that has been dormant.  

True love never ends.  That’s when you know it’s real.  Infatuations lasts for a while, but over time it fades and often you ask yourself what you ever saw in the person in the first place.  Have you ever experienced that feeling?  It’s often a topic that you don’t want to talk about after it’s over.

Infatuation isn’t always a bad thing.  Despite the repercussions, it’s exciting and there’s nothing wrong having a little excitement in your life.  It keeps us young.  Broken hearts may result from being infatuated with someone, but they heal quickly and teach us those life lessons that are desperately needed throughout our life.

Infatuation is often a problem when you’re already “happily” taken.  When your significant other makes you angry it’s easy to find comfort with someone else.  You become infatuated with this person because they tell you everything you want to hear.  My  mom always taught me that the grass isn’t any greener on the other side and as an adult I finally understand what it means.  Relationships are always good in the beginning, but as they progress the newness wears off and that’s when things become difficult.  This is when you have to choose to either work on the relationship or get out.

If you’ve never been infatuated with someone then you’re missing out.  The important thing is to never let it get out of hand. 

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