by Ashleigh-Ellan Kavanagh

Created on: April 16, 2010

Arguments represent change. These are all things I remember about arguments.

Many people argue, it's genetic. ''I mean, why not argue?'' Arguing can be posotive Arguing promotes change and even compromise when all other options seem unclear. Arguing expresses feelings previously hidden. Arguing can be good. People argue to prove they are right, which I guess is just human nature. People need to be right, some people even crave it. For some, arguing is even almost an addiction. However, nothing can be achieved without some sort of confrontation.

Everyone argues. Friends, neighbours, families. Arguments occur everywhere, even ancient literature. ''You shouldn't argue, it's bad for your health.''. My gran used to say that. She doesn't so much now, since I'm all grown up. It is a good point though.

Many arguements in my life have torn me apart. I try not to argue most times, but it seems to be a way to prove supremacy. Only being young, I have a constant need to prove to people and myself that I can do things. That I can stand up for everythign I believe in whether it's right or wrong. One arguement which comes to mind is one with my father. It ripped us both apart to the point of hardly talking. This happened almost 7 years ago. I have lost many people, as I'm sure others have too, over silly little arguements, simply because no-one would give in. Conversely, arguments lead to self-improvements. Arguements with an ex made me realise that I'm not the centre of the universe, and nor is he. This arguement changed both parties, which is an even more posotive outcome. Come to think of it, both these arguments and confrontations changed me in some way. Whenever I argue with anyone, I alway think of those two outcomes, and remember that even if I keep arguing, someone will change, so it might be a good thing to keep on shouting.

Arguments don't have to be one-time deals. My mother and I have an on-going argument about how much like my father I am sometimes. I hate hearing that, which makes me want to hurt her inside too. This is an example of quite an irrational arguement, if there is such a thing as a rational arguement! So I have learned some of the most important lessons in life so far just by shouting sometimes. And I really hope that I've helped others realise things too, over the past few years.

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