by Fulfilling a Dream

Created on: April 07, 2010   Last Updated: April 09, 2010

Can People Really Change?

What could encourage change in a person? Was it because of a negative or positive experience? Was it because there was an overwhelming need to do so, such as a job or family? There has to be at least one motivating factor to seek change, at least for me it does. I would not necessarily want to change, if I was comfortable and happy with the way things were in my life. However, many may say that is a fool’s way of thinking, because life changes without any assistance most of the time. Change affects everyone’s life in some shape, size, or form, unless there is some sort of magic available that allows everyone’s life to remain unaffected. We all would like our lives to remain in the manner for which we find the most appealing; however, it is not that simple, because change is unpredictable and uncontrollable most often.

There is always going to be something that creates change; we just need to learn to live and survive the change. As my life takes on its many intricate twists and turns, change is almost welcoming. There is always consideration, for the most part, of what my outcome will be, while wishing and praying for something amazing. Sometimes it is simply my nosy need to know what kind of change would actually occur. For me, the unknown is rather fascinating, especially if I am doing things that promote a positive change.

If you ask my mother, she would say that people cannot change. It is an impossible task to do. She feels that change often correlates to a person's mental state only. However, I do not agree with that completely. Change quite often is situational, such as a new baby, new job, sickness, job loss, or death. However, there are many who can happily wallow in their self pity, creating a very negative downward spiral. These are typically the people who feel they never get a break. Everything they do equate to failure, or at least in their opinions. These are the people that have given up. So whether a positive change occurs that would bring a positive outcome, these people are typically too low to see it or care. 

A person should never give up on themselves. With a positive attitude and outlook on life, anyone can change and dare hope for the best. Meeting someone who feels that people are not able to change, makes me think what happened to them. Who determines if a change is possible, other the individual in question? 

My thought, regardless of my mother’s experience, is that people can change. As long as there is cause, reason, and an open mind, we all can welcome change a little bit of optimism. The problem with change cannot exist, if we accept that it will happen and simply focus on living with the change for the greater good for ourselves and our families. Change is not always bad; it often bring some of the most amazing experiences. This is what my life experiences have shown me; change is good and survivable!

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