by Frederick A. Babb

Created on: April 07, 2010   Last Updated: April 19, 2010

When it comes to marriage and abortions, we are talking about a decision which should be made by both parties.  Unlike a pregnancy out of wedlock, a pregnancy in a marriage is an important cornerstone in the relationship.   Some may argue that the pregnancy wasn’t planned, but regardless, of the situation, once the seed has been planted both people involved in the pregnancy should have equal voices in the fate of the embryo.

The basic rule of Mother Nature has demonstrated that the conception of a baby involves a man and woman.  In layman’s terms, it takes two to tangle.  Be that as it may, each has taken an active part in this miracle we call “Life”.  When it involves married couples, the idea of having conceiving children are more so a joint effort, rather than an accident resulting from a spur of the moment good time.  There shouldn’t be a “me” in this decision on either side of the gender spectrum.

In a world where women command equal rights, I beg for equal rights for men.  Reality will tell us if a baby is conceived, the woman automatically has control of the future and all affected.  Should she decide to have the baby, the man will pay for the child whether he wants to or not.  Likewise, should the woman decide to abort, the man has no say in the killing of his offspring.  I ask, “What equality do we see in the abortion issue?”  So the argument of “it’s her body, her decision” really isn’t morally or legally correct.

I will not venture down the debate of pro-life versus pro-choice.  Each must follow their own conscious when it comes down to the decision of an abortion.  However, I will examine the justice in two people having equal say in the life they conceived together.  Should one or the other not want or is not prepare to become a parent, they should not place themselves in a position to cause the pregnancy until it is clear what their desires are.  Once the pregnancy tests come back positive, it is too late to decide if this is really what one wants in a marriage.

Marriage is supposed to be based on love, trust and common lives together.  I would go as far as to say a child sharing the joint DNA of the parents is the most prized evidence of that bondage of love.  For one of the spouses to trump the desires of the others for selfish reasons without permitting input from the other is

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