by Shakia Shine

Created on: March 25, 2010

"All the good ones are taken," is a phrase constantly spoken by millions of women every day. These millions of women have been through relationship after relationship and have come to the conclusion that all the good men are gone. That's the farthest thing from the truth. If all the good men are taken then why are there still so many single women. If fifty percent of marriages end in divorce then there are still as much single people out there as there are married people. The only reason women think that all the good men are gone is because they're still looking for the same kind of guy. You're still looking for the guy with the nice looks, the great job, and the nice personality with the big penis. Ladies the guy you dreamed of when you were five isn't going to be the guy you end up marrying by the time you're thirty five. We women are so picky this day and age we can't look beyond our usual preferences and realize that there are some really great guys out there. I'm not saying settle for less but don't count someone out based on a few silly preferences.  All the good men aren't gone. Most women just look at the physical when they're out there dating so they miss out on the good guy who may be somewhat average.

Some women focus way  too much on a mistake a man's made in his past  and feels he's forever tainted and isn't someone they can love. Everyone makes mistakes including women so ladies get off your high horses. Not all men are dogs some just recognize what real love is later than others. Of course some mistakes are bigger than others but if he's learned from them and he's changed for the better then why not give him a chance.  No one is perfect ladies so expand your preferences. Stop looking for the same kind of lover you had ten years ago because if that was the type of guy you were supposed to be with then you probably wouldn't be single. Look at different  races or body types and heights. Keep your options open and stop being so close minded. Not every girl is going to get the dream prince you saw in all those fairytale books as a child. Go for the guy that makes you happy even if he doesn't have the best looks. 

We women are so stuck in our ways when it comes to our preferences that we end up doing something stupid like settling for a bad relationship, closing ourselves off from the world or destroying someone else's marriage or relationship. We have to look beyond the type of men we usually go for and just date whomever makes us happy. Look at the emotional pros and cons of a man when making your decision not the physical ones. Aesthetic reasons shouldn't come into play when you're looking for real love. A good woman can spot a good man no matter what he looks like so if you're still having a hard time take time out to examine your own issues. Expand your horizons ladies and I guarantee you, you will not think that all the good men are gone.

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