by Lang Zaam

Created on: March 22, 2010   Last Updated: March 23, 2010

Love never ends but a relationship might. Love is a feeling of giving and is intrinsically linked to ones personality. Love is what one gives without strings attached, it is endless generosity, a reflexion or a response in kind.

Love has two sides to it, there is love and there is caring and the administering of care and love is the same for both parties, regardless of gender. The title; "does love end" is not really a fair question. Love never ends coming from a loving, generous person because a person so inclined has an enviable personality. In a relationship it is always love that makes it work, love is leadership, love is giving, including the benefit of the doubt. To have a loving personality has its problems because he or she tends to be vulnerable and people are attracted to it. You know, he or she is getting something, like attention and admiration, for nothing. A loving person desires nothing in return either, such as gifts for good behaviour.

A loving person that ends a relationship is a smart person that does not except any form of abuse. A loving person may not end a relationship right away even if some abuse or harshness has already taken place but it does seeks a redress, an apology, an new understanding. To love is to give, giving is the thing to do, giving is a two-way street, to give someone a chance not to repeat an infraction. Resolutely and quickly, after a pattern of dis-likable occurrences are established, the smart and loving person severs the relationship.

Loving is often confused with liking. Love is there but there is something I do not like, as they say. A well adjusted loving person obviously expects the other party to be likable besides that he or she expects to be liked and appreciated. A loving person is well advised not to be naive, it is always "buyer beware". It is, after all, buying yourself into a relationship that should last for ever, binding yourself to a personality with a greedy or selfish streak is not one to be advocated or prolonged.  

With the good person love does not end, love is simply withdrawn, it is no longer extended for reasons of self preservation. A good person does not deserve to be stuck with someone not reciprocating in kind. A relationship, although seldom perfect, needs a sound basis showing integrity and patience, the negatives must be mutually understood and not be perpetuated by indecision. Love does not end but do not waste it on a person that is always on the receiving end, you have a right to be loved in return. In that case it is the liking that ends.

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