by Jessie Lorente

Created on: March 20, 2010

No, you can never really say I love you too much. I could here those words from my husband and son every minute of the day, and I would never get tired of it. The words can actually start to become a greeting or a way of leaving. Instead of saying goodbye, you just say "Love you," as you walk out the door. This is where I think the concern takes place. Do you really mean it, or is it just routine? Is it a bad thing for it to become routine? In my opinion, the answer is unequivocally NO. How could falling into a routine of loving someone ever be a bad thing?

Think about the word the word routine. What does it mean? Chronic, accepted, everyday, etc. What could be so bad about the acceptance of chronically loving someone, or being loved every single day? Most people think of a routine as being boring, or unremarkable, but I can't think of anything less boring then being loved. Or of someone loving me so much that it is actually ingrained into their everyday vocabulary.

Don't get me wrong. These little reminders of love of wonderful, but should we expect more? Yes! I don't think that I could count the number of times that the phrase, "I love you", is used in my home in a day, and I never want that to change. But that certainly doesn't mean that I don't need to have it said with a little more ardor now and again. Sometimes you need be looked in the eye and told with feeling that you are deeply and truly loved, and that of course goes both ways. At the end of the day, the expression itself can never really be overused, as long as the meaning is conveyed, as long as the words are felt. They are quite possibly the three most important words a person can say.We're generally able to muster the big three words at special events. It's as if "I love you" is a phrase that's supposed to be voiced only on those days that are circled on the calendar. We trot out the words at weddings, birthdays, anniversaries, graduations. But when you really care about someone, they should be everyday words. Very important everyday words.

If I had to choose between breathing and loving you, I would use my last breath to tell you I love you."

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