In dating, what do you do when you want something that you cannot have? First, assess the situation. Is the subject of your desire completely unattainable? When you feel the compulsion to "possess" something which is not available to you, the issue often lies deeper than merely choosing between what is convenient and what is not convenient.

Often, these situations in our lives which call for an immediate decision between involving yourself with another person and maintaining an existing relationship with someone else, we must look within ourselves. There are many questions you must ask yourself if this issue is even raised. If you have a desire for something outside of your existing relationship, why is this the case? How are you unsatisfied or unfulfilled? Is your void easily filled by something that another person can offer? Or are you lacking something within yourself to make you feel incomplete?

Wanting what you cannot have is an emotion which causes you to walk a very thin line. Emotions are at risk between many different parties, and a lot of consideration and reflection is involved. In all long-lasting relationships, there are moments throughout the years when either one or both individuals face this challenging thought. Hopefully, this will not remain a looming question for the individual with the desire for "something more," but if it persists, it may be a good indication that a re-evaluation is necessary.

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