by Andrew Zirkowski

Created on: February 23, 2007   Last Updated: December 04, 2010

In my personal opinion, finding love is like a game of cat and mouse. You have the first time you meet, the little talking stages, maybe a few dates, and then possibly if everything goes well, a relationship. But what happens after that first few weeks of the relationship when that spark starts to fade and being with that person just becomes a habit? For example, in my past experiences I thought I really liked someone but once we slept together, that spark was gone. Keeping someone waiting before you sleep with them makes them want you more and more.

For a guy, the game of chasing after the girl that you desire can be one of the most invigorating things on this earth. Trying to see her enough, but not too often. It's that rush of "am I going to get the girl, or is she going home with someone else?". But then if a guy doesn't really know a girl that well just yet, and they sleep together, that connection isn't there and it's possibly just another one night stand.

Basically what I'm trying to say is before you sleep with someone that you are in a relationship with or want to be in a relationship with, make sure they feel the same way. Because if not, then rushing into it and saying things like "i love you" to soon, is just a bad idea. A girl can rush into saying "i love you" and scare the guy away and vice versa. On the other hand the guy can say "i love you" just to get into a girls pants and then they feel hurt when he never calls them again. Keeping the chase going is the best thing to do until your absolutely sure that this is the person that you want to be with.

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