by Rachel Couch

Created on: March 17, 2010

 As children, we all seem to look up to our parents in some way or another. It's the parents responsibility to do the right thing as much as possible because a childs mind is so delicate and they seem to learn from the people who have raised them. They learn from how we deal with difficult situations; they take on our coping methods. For instance, the chances are very high that if you were brought up in a househould where the parents were very strict, and well educated, they would have motivated you to be the very best that you could be; you're learning from them and will more than likely take on an attitude similar to their own.

 The adolescents that are contributing to the crime rate around the world must have learned these actions from some place. I'm not claiming that it's always the parents fault, but to some extent, they must have learned it somewhere. The ones who have raised these kids could have been irresponsible themselves. Possibly their "role models" have resulted to a life of crime.  These parents could have given them too much freedom and not enough responsibilities.
 When it comes to an individuals temper, whether they have a short fuse or not, they've seen their mother or father react this way. Constant slandering and profanity, is that really healthy for a child's ears? I know from personal experience that hearing the "F Bomb" every couple of minutes made it that much easier for it to slip from my lips. When the going gets rough for a kid, who do they automatically turn to? Usually their mother or father I'd presume. I find it easy to believe that if a parent rejects their child at such a tender age and tell them to "suck it up and deal with it" repeatedly, the chances are escalated that as the child gets older and the more frequently they hear this, the more they will repress their thoughts and feelings. Many adults that I have known have a tendency to have that "suck it up and deal with it" attitude towards many tough situations that no one should keep inside (mourning, grief, sadness, etc.). It struck me as strange to  be honest, but see, then I would ask them why they have that kind of attitude. What's the point of repressing what you feel? Many times I would be told that they had no clue! After getting to know these people, their lifestyles, their past, and what their family life was like growing up. It seemed to me that these people gained this mind set from their very own parents. Either they couldn't be bothered with the situation or they are just repeating the cycle.
 Another brief example that I have on this is abuse. When a child is abused in someway at a certain point in their life or they have witnessed it first hand, what do you think their mind set is on all of this? It's ok to beat a woman? I'm allowed to verbally abuse someone? If these kids who have seen this, learn from it and really open up as they get older to how wrong it truly is, they can take matters into their own hands and be a better person but if not, they will more than likely become abusive in some way or another, whether it be physically, verbally, or mentally. The risks are way up there.

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