by Laura Douglass

Created on: March 13, 2010   Last Updated: March 14, 2010

I've had a lifetime, (40 years) of experience with womanizers of all varieties, my father included.  The basic common characteristics involve intense insecurity that is presented by the overcompensation tactic of arrogance, cockiness, and an air or superiority.  These are not consistent feelings of how these guys feel whole heartedly from their core.   They need constant reassurance of their attractiveness, admiration from women, as well as men, and it's a numbers game for them.  Quantity is pursued over quality. 

They seem to have no scruples, morals, conscious and a severe coldness towards the devastating effects they have on others, no matter how "close"  they were, or how much the "victim" has done for them..  The draw is done by bait and switch.  These guys all can be so alluring by their super loveable traits and behaviors towards their current object of conquest.   The sweet words, warm and fuzzy, bring many of us comfort that we need and desire. They pursue us as if their lives depend on it, and bring out the sweetest most  adorable person that is later found out to be a fraud.  Once they've landed you, and made the catch, they're immediately ready for the release with no common courtesy, consideration or a lick of concern for what their hideous actions do to the other person.  Not sure if they ever had those feelings at all, but if they did, they can turn it off like the flick of a switch. 

Mother's who are emotionally weak, distant or unavailable raise sons like this. Mothers who destroy and banish the boy's father from their lives create this dynamic, along with borderline personality disordered women who go through men like underwear, and have no concern for how their men regard or treat their sons.  IF the men that come in and out of their lives devalue or abuse these boys at all, and are left to do it with no protection or defense from mom, leave these boys to grow up hating and resenting women, so their nasty. unacceptable behaviors are taken out on the women in their lives, receiving what they feel their mothers deserve. 

These womanizers can come from all extremes, and even struggle with their sexuality.. Some are tight with a group of guys who have the same attitudes, and they all seem to have metro sexual styles, constant references to being gay, and homosexual, joking, or so they think, but their vibe of being gay flows strong.  They'll also have

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