by Gabby Bugwadia

Created on: March 05, 2010   Last Updated: October 27, 2010

Parenting wisdom comes from analyzing your current scenario with a dash of objectivity. Understandably, this could be tough at this stage in your life when your first fledgling has flown out of the nest you had so laboriously  created! You feel empty on the inside- - -inadequate, overwhelmed and defeated. Rest assured, nothing could be more further from truth. Rejoice in the thought that you have equipped your child with wings so strong, that he/she could fly away to weather the storm and face the challenges of the world independently. What more could you want ?

Writing this from my own personal experience, I can honestly admit that you are hardest hit the very first time, when your fledgling child leaves the nest. However,when faced with this upheaval in your life, you can do either of the two things: Succumb to it and drown yourself in misery or use it as an opportunity to transform this seemingly dark phase into something uplifting and meaningful. I as a doting parent, would naturally urge you to choose the latter for your own sanity. Here is yet another opportunity for you to make your first fledgling proud; seize it!

Here are 5 simple, yet effective tips to help you cope with the first fledgling child from the nest:

Tip #1 Be strong

This is the time for you to tap your inner resources and be strong in dealing with the circumstances in a proactive manner. It is your understanding and handling of this situation, that  can affect your child in ways that you may never know. Understand that this is a brand new beginning for your child; if you demonstrate any apprehensions and negative emotions, your child may sense these through your communications. This would make it all the more difficult for your child-to make adjustment away from you and home.

Tip # 2 Fix your attitude

Train your mind to think positively and fix your attitude. Think of all the exciting opportunities -educational or worldly, your child could encounter. Imagine the wide and wonderful experiences he could gain and remember to count your blessings. Having given parenting your best shot, it is now the time to step back and revel in your child's accomplishments. Believe in the value of your upbringing and in your child's capability to cope with this new change-and make the best of this significant milestone in your first fledgling's life.

Tip # 3 Shift your Focus

Now that you may have more time on your hands, this would be the best time to shift your

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