by Kelly A. Mello

Created on: February 22, 2007   Last Updated: January 08, 2008

For many men, the following situation may sound familiar: Sitting back in your Lazy-boy watching the football game with a beer in one hand, and your jewels in your other, you think to yourself..."Why the heck am I still a bachelor? Why have all my relationships failed? What do women want in a relationship?" It's not that much of a mystery, really, because it may be what men look for too. Three of the most important things women look for in a relationship are Trust, Love, and Sex. At the very least, men can agree with that latter. When all else fails, however, we depend on batteries.

Trust is how we develop the relationship into something serious. Without it, the relationship is meaningless. But hey, if it's all about meaningless sex, then you are golden. For the majority though, Trust is something you and your partner must both earn and do. If you think your partner is cheating on you, that poses as a major problem. Either you are right and they are a no-good scumbag, or you are wrong and you just don't have faith in them or the relationship. So before Love, comes Trust.

Love is probably the most obvious thing most women think about when entering a relationship. Does this have potential? Can I see myself with this person forever? Does he give me butterflies, dizziness and that whole bit? Even as a human race Love is important to us. We all want that special someone to cherish and to hold and to bicker with. Loneliness is not an option. I'm not saying that Love is for EVERYONE, but for most of the population, it is privilege to have.

Sex. It's how the world gets populated. It's how the human race keeps growing. It also happens to be one way to get an orgasm. Of course Sex is also another key to having a healthy relationship. Sex allows us to be truly intimate with our partner in such a way that each is sharing everything with the other. Sex makes us let our guard down, leaving us vulnerable. For many women, Sex brings together all aspects I mentioned above. You must trust your partner to have Sex. You trust the person with your body, not to take advantage of you, nor to toy with your insecurities. Your Love for Sex makes you get caught up in the act. And for some, Love leads to Sex, and not the other way around.

When we can't have these things, women then put their Trust, Love, and Sex into Batteries. That's right. Who needs a man, or even a woman for that matter, when we have the good ol' Rabbit. Or the Pocket Rocket. Or maybe the Silver Bullet is your poison. Whatever the case, using such devices is natural. It's what we depend on when Trust, Love, and Sex go down on us.

If you are looking to spice up your relationship, bring those Sex toys into the bedroom! Don't be shy about it. They are made specifically to bring pleasure to your partner. She will enjoy you exploring her body using different textures or vibrations. It will literally send shivers up and down her body, and she will love you for it. And don't worry...chances are she will return the favor if you do things just right.

Trust, Love, Sex and Batteries. They all go together, and now you understand how. As I said earlier, it isn't too complicated. Sometimes it may seem like you need Batteries just to keep the other three from dying, but it's all worth it in the end.

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