by Caroline Tigeress

Created on: March 05, 2010   Last Updated: March 07, 2010

Finding oneself is a matter of critical truths and introspections.  Without question, it is one of the most critical things that we can do.  When we look inside, deep, deep inside, surprising things may be found.    

Many of the things we do in our lives are driven by external forces; these forces can begin at childhood and carry on to our adult lives.  As adults, it is imperative that we continually question our personal motives.  

Things to consider:  

Why am I taking this action?  Is this an action, or a knee-jerk reaction?  What is the basis for taking this action.  Is this a logical action, or is this an emotional action, or some combination of both?    

It would also be prudent to consider the concept of instinct, something very lacking in today's fast-paced, GPS oriented world.  

How is it that we can find ourselves in a culture that worships the computer, the cellular telephone, and laptop computers?

Silence.

Sweet, blissful, silence.

Think about this for a moment.  When was the last time you enjoyed silence?  How can we find ourselves with so much media pouring at us? How can we have the courage to locate those things which drive us, which bring meaning to our lives, with an MP3 player stuck into our years?    

So you silence the radio.  Turn off the television.      

What now?   

Go inside.    

If you dare.  I say if you dare, because many people are afraid of being alone.  It's a scary thing for a lot of folks.  Technically it's called autophobia.  

Yet, fear, as we all know is important.  It warns us.  Teaches us, educates us.  It drives our actions, it drives our ways.    

What happens when we discard fear?  What would happened to abandon all fear?  

Then we can express ourselves, fully, freely, and without repercussion to ourselves and our own psyche's.  

That's a pretty heady thought.    

Consider, for example, someone who finds themselves attracted to the same gender. Initially, that's quite a shock.  It might be a crush on a friend, or colleague of some sort.    

That person has to learn then to be honest with themselves.  They have to take the time out to dissect their feelings, to understand why those feelings exist.  Then, perhaps a blend, of feelings, emotions, instinct and logic to further develop the relationship, or decide on a new course of action.    

When only that we find ourselves, define, and become unafraid to refine the individuals that we are can we then make an honest, and honorable contribution to our society and culture.  This can advance us sociologically, and further we can pass these traits of finding ourselves on to others, by leading by example.    

Example is one of the easiest methods of finding one's self.  Set the example.  Find yourself.

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