by Emily Pertee

Created on: February 28, 2010   Last Updated: March 04, 2010

Suicidal death, leaves us with so many questions unanswered. The mental anguish of the victim of suicide now tortures our mind with unknown explanations running rampant through our minds. We feel as if we have been turned inside out with grief, devastation and complete shock. This is such an unnecessary and permanent act of self affliction upon their selves, not feeling that hope or help could ever be attained for their torturous mental difficulties. We are left to try and sort through a wide range of emotions and reasons to make sense of a senseless act.

Realizing upfront that you could not have prevented this act of suicide in any way or form can ease guilt that is associated with not seeing any signs of the suicide, a feeling you could have possibly stopped this person from committing suicide, and blaming yourself for why they killed their self. No one is to blame in the act of committing suicide, they chose to end their lives out of their own personal choice. They believed that their only option was to end the pain permanently, leaving scars and emptiness in our hearts that will take time to heal.

The grieving process of a suicidal death will in fact take quite some time to get through. There is really no easy way to deal with such a loss as this. The shock factor weighs heavily on this, because no one wants to believe something like this could possibly happen. After the shock wears down, you are left feeling at a loss for words when asked about the suicide. You don't know how to quite talk about what has happened. This would be a good time to seek a support group for dealing with suicidal deaths. You will be able to learn how to communicate more effectively about the suicide.

Suicide rudely awakens our feelings of confusion and anger at the person for choosing this way out of their problems. We ask ourselves," Why could they not trust us enough to help them get through whatever they were going through?" All kinds of battering emotions and questions will paralyze our thoughts and feelings. Coping with suicide will require you to look deep inside yourself for inner strength and courage to accept what has happened and be able to move forward one day at a time. Always remember that some things just can't always be explained when coping with a suicide.

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