by Alexi Mccreedy

Created on: February 26, 2010   Last Updated: February 27, 2010

A marriage or any relationships greatest threat to happiness often comes from the bedroom. Many couples suffer from a lack of interest in their sex lives, sometimes leading to one or both of the people to search for other ways to scratch those sexual needs. For some this can be pornography or even extra-marital affairs.

A couples sex life never truly dies, it instead is seen as unfulfilling and insignificant compared to others. Say Ben and Sarah have been going out for nearly five years.

For the first few years, they had an active sex life, the passion still strong. But in the last year, it has started to wane and their relationship is suffering. But with five simple tips, there is a way to relight your sexual life and get back to where it was.

1. Honesty is the best policy.

If you ever feel like there is something amiss in the bedroom do not hesitate to bring it up. You can’t fix a problem that you aren’t aware that you are doing, so the best way to solve a problem is to bring it up. Any embarrassment is better to be told between you and sorted out rather than festering away in a corner and irritating you when it can be easily solved.

Even if the problem is harder to fix than that, better you know the faults so you can take steps to repair it. On the other hand, if there is something that you want to try, bring it up. Even if your partner refuses, it is better for you to lay your hand on the table than keeping it close to your chest.

For example: Ben has become annoyed by the fact that Sarah always takes the dominant position in the bedroom and does things a certain way while he, although used to not taking decisions so much, has become a bit fed up and wishes that Sarah could try something he wants to do, like switching it up. By sharing his concern and asking if Sarah wants to try different positions or a different style, they can stop the sex from becoming repetitive.

2. Spontaneity rather than structure.

Remember the days of your relationship where you couldn’t keep your hands off each other but now you wait till you're both in bed around ten o’clock, every Wednesday and Friday for sex? Now that is a prime example of the sex life becoming average and when it becomes average, it can become boring.

So instead, why not try different places and different times. A change of environment can make a world of change for your sex life. Instead of the bedroom in the evening, how about having a lovers lunch in the living room, with the curtains

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