by Lorie Spencer

Created on: February 26, 2010

Complete and Alone

Being complete does not necessarily mean that you have a husband and three children; there are many people of both sexes that lead completely fulfilling lives. This is not the age of Cinderella where a woman (or man) believes that they need a spouse to be complete and have that ‘happy ending’.

Companionship is important in many aspects of one’s life, which is true. Many people have pets that fill the void that a missing spouse may have left, or that they simply do not want filled by another person. Too many people, this may seem completely out of the norm.  We must remember that what is comfortable to you may not be so comfortable for someone else

Is it so wrong that people can be satisfied with an outside social life and work relations?  Not really, the stress of having a partner may simply not be one of interest at the present time. Sharing your life, home and bed with another human being can certainly take a lot of you, and it definitely requires patience as well as a ton of emotional understanding and compromise for both parties to be happy.

There are many people that look at a compromise as a ‘loose, loose’ situation instead of a ‘win, win’ situation. Compromise means that both parties are willing to give and take to be satisfied together, you may not be ready to give up anything right now; the simple truth is there isn’t one thing wrong with that.  Although being in that state of mind today does not mean that you are destined to be alone forever.

Can you be complete without a partner, of course? In time you may realize that you would like to have someone to share your life with.  This person doesn’t even have to be a ‘partner’; it may be a friend that you share your home with. 

It is in fact absolutely possible to be complete and content with the life you have made for yourself and not want to share it with someone full time.  Unfortunately the people that make this decision are usually branded and are considered to be out of the norm.  On the other hand, some people are simply afraid to spend their life alone.  This is a comfort zone for the individual and no one should make you feel bad about your decision to share your life or to keep it to yourself, it is after all your life.

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