by Francine Vicente

Created on: February 26, 2010   Last Updated: February 27, 2010

Well certainly I didn’t think it would ever happen. But as complicated as relationships have come to be. I found myself dating a married man, literally something I would never thought would happen.  As time goes by and single men seem to turn out more stupid. Being that I know what I want, which is a responsible man, family type man. I found myself dating a married man.

Was he happy, yes and no. Because he has children that will be bonded by heavenly father forever more than a marriage could be. He was happy to be the supportive husband, but most of all dad. His partner on the other hand turned out to do absolutely nothing at all but pay the bills for him, which she couldn't do either, which caused them to be in up to $50,000 in debt. So it was no likely to say he was not trying or was happy. Girls have you heard this one before? "All married and good men are always taken!."

Well, this one was. And NOT being taken cared of. Not have had the chance or clue what partnership or a wife was concerned. She ended up being just another kid to take care of. Internet was more important than any wife duties and over extended mom duties, such as QUALITY TIME with the kids, let alone. Lucky to have QUALITY TIME for him. So you must be thinking, did this dating turn to a relationship. Yes, It did. We dated for a couple of months, when he realized, he has been missing a lot as far as having a real partnership. With love, respect, support, and togetherness in all that should be for partners. So he decided to do what I thought all men with a relationship would do, use compromise, be unsecured about moving on to another relationship. I don’t blame him, he did settle for less. But as far as having both worlds….Wasn’t going to happen, I told him. He can stay married, or be happily married. He decided what he wanted means more than what just was. And after years of trying when nothing changed between his wife, or of his wife. She still insisted if she doesn’t want to work, clean or do any other factors….Then she don’t need to. She does only what she wants, not what is needed, or necessary to make a home for the kids & her husband. So he finally got caught up in mixed emotions of past and present. Which we all know, if he should divorce or not. Well, after so many times of being hurt by his own wife. I made my firm decision that if we date, he must consider leaving his past and move on. So, We dated.

Now after deciding we both had the same drive in life and values. I am happy to say dating a married man for the right reasons, and not out of self-centered, lust, revenge, or all other negative reasons. It turned out that. He is ecstatically happy to know that he has a mother that cares and have quality values and times for his children, he has a partner that is there for him, he is happy in many ways to have left the first wife (life’s lesson to not just marry for ?) And live happily ever after with me, his loving supportive wife.

It takes time to consider whether I am a home wrecker or not. A lot say not, because plain and clear, that was not a marriage he divorced. It was a ball and chain. Some say I am, because she keeps the kids from evil me, we had to fight in court forever and ever for any life with the children that dearly loves their dad and likes me a lot. So what's wrong with seeing dad happy and having a so called mom, that takes time to do things together as a family? I feel nothing is wrong with it. Dating a married man, got me married finally at age 30. Picky you say, yes. I dated every type of person, but it turned out a married man was the one to make me happy, and one that I made happy. The End.

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