by Bella Valentin

Created on: February 24, 2010

We have all experienced the feeling of a broken heart. The loneliness, sorrows and the, many times, painful remembrance of the loved one who left you. A break up from a relationship marks us all in many different ways. Just as many are the ways in which we mend our broken heart.

For some, stocking up with chocolate, cheap red wine and romantic movies, hiding under the covers and disappearing from the world as they cry their pain out  does the trick. For others it might be to quickly find themselves a new partner who can fill the emotional space, and help heal their heart. 

Not to be forgotten, is also the many hours spent on the Internet or the phone, spilling out all the emotions that goes through the mind of the heartbroken. With the support of good friends, they find their way out of their sorrow, and manage to see a bright new day, ready to face the world and not afraid to put their heart out there once again.

Personally, I have always found writing being one of the best therapies in regards of dealing with a broken heart, and trust me I have had my fair share of those experiences. Which has resulted in several books filled with handwritten sheets drenched in tears and covered in wine stains.

When writing from your heart, and putting your thoughts and fears on a blank piece of paper, you get all the feelings out of your system. You can be completely and fully honest in your feelings, desperation and emotions, as you are writing to yourself. Unless you chose to share your writing with others, you are the only reader of your "book for the heart". 

When writing,  you let go of the emotions, emptying your heart and soul, acknowledging what you feel. You get the pain out of your body, and onto a piece of paper, that some what turns out to a log book of your emotions. When moving forward in the process of mending your heart, you can always go back and read about your previous feelings with an objective eye. Offering another chance to understand yourself, and your emotions.

For me writing as a way of mending my heart, has been a life saver. I often go back and read those books with jagged edges.

When I do, I remember the feeling I had at the time. I can feel my desperation as I read between the lines, but the best part of it all, is that I can see how I progressed and worked my way though the pain, put myself and the pieces of my heart together, walked outside, and fell in love again.

We have all had our heart broken sometime, when it happens it feels like the whole world is falling down on you.  At those times, when we see no way out of the sorrows, I take out my old " books for the heart" and I remember that the pain I feel will not kill me.

Then, I start writing to once again heal my heart.

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