by Kitten Jackson

Created on: February 22, 2010

“Nice guys finish last,” right? Well, that’s true sometimes. Okay, it’s true lots of times, and to men, it’s a mystery. Each situation is a little bit different, with many dynamics involved, but most of the time, it all comes down to human nature. We all want what we can’t have. That’s why when we’re in a relationship, especially one which isn’t new, we tend to take the person for granted. We see what we perceive as greener grass on the other side, and we think we might want to try it out. More often than that, we tend to lose interest in a man who is committed to us, and neglect his feelings and needs, because he isn’t out of reach. If he belongs to us, there’s no challenge. We don’t appreciate what we have until we see him in the arms of another woman who does appreciate him. It’s amazing how much more attractive your man is when you realize another woman is interested in him.

It’s also about maturity. Especially when we are young, there’s a certain level of competition between women. We want to be with the guy that all the other women want to be with, and that’s usually the best-looking guy in the room, who is usually a jerk. That guy is used to having lots of attention from girls/women, and he expects it. He knows he can pretty much have whichever woman he chooses, so he doesn’t appreciate the one he picks. He knows that if she won’t put up with his being a jerk, there’s another one waiting in line who will. And he’s right. We want to be envied by other women, even if it means putting up with being treated badly.

As attractive as the good-looking guy might be, it takes more than good looks to attract a woman. It also takes a good personality. What good is a good-looking man who can’t carry on a conversation, or make you laugh? But men who have these attributes are aware of their ability to attract women and they take full advantage. Their logic seems to be, “Why settle for one, when I can sample them all?” And for a young, immature woman, rather than being a red flag, it’s more of a challenge. We sometimes think that we can be the one woman, out of all the women in the world, who can love him so much and so well, that he won’t want anyone else. We romanticize the situation by imagining that he’s an injured soul who just hasn’t been treated well by women. We fantasize that somewhere, deep down under

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