by Karen Nunn

Created on: February 18, 2010

Have you ever asked yourself why things happen the way they do? What choices have you made in life that has caused pain to other people and how did those choices carve the path for your life? I have asked these questions so many times that I have decided to figure this out and change the direction of the path for my life. It is never too late to change the direction of your path and no matter where you are in your life; you can make the decision to change.

I have always lived my life for other people. Growing up it was always trying to please my parents or abiding by the rules in school. We are taught very young about all the rules in life and what consequences are. Not following the rules will result in discipline or punishment. Break your parent's rules and you are going to get a spanking or grounded. Breaking the school rules will get you detention or even suspension. We take these lessons learned early on throughout our lives and turn it in to self-discipline. There are cases where this can be extreme self discipline which should be addressed by a mental health professional. There are people that will cut themselves or abuse substances that cause great bodily damage. These are no the issues I am talking about as I am not a mental health care professional and am not qualified to address them. What I am talking about is when we have failed at something in our lives we mentally beat ourselves up. We feel we aren't worthy and won't strive for something and are defeated before we even start. Why is that? Why do we feel that we aren't worthy just because of one little misjudged mistake in our lives? Enough of that! I am worthy of anything I strive for in my life and so are you!

When we become parents we make a ton of wrong decisions. We second guess ourselves all the time and worry about making the wrong decision for our children's lives. We may have waited a little too long to act on something and in turn made the situation a little worse. But you know what? Our kids are fine! They survived just like we did so why do we have to think that we weren't good enough as parents? My kids have told me that I was a good Mom so why can't I let it go? Why do I have to beat myself up and keep myself in a place that I don't deserve? I think as parents we should all let go of what ever it is we are holding onto and realize that we did do a good job raising our kids and be proud of a job well done. I am going to concentrate on letting go of what I think my failures are and you should too!

I am going to let go of all the things in my life that I have chosen to hold onto. Why should I hold onto those things and constantly use them as a weapon against myself? I am choosing not change the path for my life and I want you to join me! Let go of all those "weapons" you are constantly using against yourself because you think you are not worthy due to some decision you made in your life 20 years ago. This is silly! Let it go and move on with your life. There is no need to beat yourself up anymore and you can change your path. Just make a conscious effort to change things in your life and move on! I am going to, will you join me?

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