by Maria Gordon

Created on: February 18, 2010

Expressing your love and feelings for someone is a big deal. It is definitely not to be taken lightly. When coming from your heart saying "I love you" can be a wonderful thing. It can lift someones spirits, show that you are there for them and even comfort them. However, there is indeed a such thing as saying it too often.

The words "I love you" are very powerful. It should never be just thrown around. With this in mind the reactions to the words are just as powerful. Think about the times you hear those words. Some hear it everyday others not as often, but when you do- you feel really good or really bad. Sometimes even annoyed. 

When sentiments are expressed to often the following can take place:

1. You will feel obligated to say it back instead of saying it from your heart.

2. You will start to feel that the person is saying it out of habit.

When the first occurs, it is likely that you do indeed love this person, but at that specific time you said it as a response and not as a sentiment. That is of course assuming that you have said it to the individual previously. As far as the second is concerned, you can no longer feel the "tingle" or warm sensation usually associated with those words because you feel that the level of sincerity has decreased.

It is very important to make sure that you only say loving things when you mean them. Have you ever heard the old saying "Too much of anything is not good"? That statement is completely true. Especially in this regard. Consider this for an example: If you received flowers everyday, or your favorite candy, eventually you would get tired of receiving them. The same holds true for saying the words "I love you".

There is nothing wrong with sharing your feelings with the one you love, just be mindful of how often. After all, you are saying it so that your loved ones feel cherished and cared for. Allow them the opportunity to miss it. Anything that becomes routine, becomes expected. You do not want someone to be able to time or guess when your going to tell them you love them. There should be a level of surprise involved. That will make the moment more enjoyable for the both of you.

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