by Paul Cleaver

Created on: February 15, 2010

This is not going to be the longest article you are going to read on this subject. It does not need to be. The simple FACT is this, sex is for the procreation of the species and the rest of this drivel is just that. There is no emotional connection with the act of having homoerotic sex with someone else. For many people it becomes a matter of conquest. For others they confuse LOVE with procreation. They confuse Love with sex. If you enter into the marriage vows simply for the ability to have sex with your virgin wife then it will be a poor sham of a marriage. Because there may come a time 28 years into your married life together that the act of performing sex is no longer physically possible. So if you confuse the emotional feeling of Love with the physically erotic act of sex what will you do? Do you walk away from your 28 year marriage and leave your spouse because he or she cannot perform for you in a physically sexual manner? Does this mean Love is no longer a part of that couples life because they cannot perform the physical sex act? So they no longer Love each other? Whatever happened to “for better or for worse”? And when the physical sexual needs can’t be met what happens then do you fall OUT of Love?

And for those of you that feel that multiple sexual partners before marriage help you develop a barometer that you can measure your final true (?) Love by I have this for you to ponder:

If I stayed celibate until marriage and then later wondered what it was like to be like you, to feel that erotic sensation from multiple sexual partners I can go out and do just that. I can have sex with as many women as will have me.  However if you, who have slept with oh so many partners, wish to find out what it would feel like to ONLY have slept with your ultimate spouse, the one man or woman that choose to marry you, you cannot, ever!

Sex is not a toy to be used for recreation. People are not simply a collection of their erotic zones. Love has NOTHING to do with sex. Sex is Sex and Love is LOVE! The sooner we can all learn to quit confusing the two the fewer broken hearts and shattered marriages there will be.  

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